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Placing A Parent In A Nursing Home: Can It Be Easier?

Placing A Parent In A Nursing Home: Can It Be Easier?

Disclosure:  This is not a sponsored post.  There are no affiliate links.  All thoughts are my own and no others.  This post is now in the guidelines of the FTC.

I can say with absolute confidence that nobody wants to place their parents in a nursing home. The idea of it, even if you haven’t had to make the decision, sends shivers down the spine. What if they hate you for the rest of their life? People are independent and the thought of assisted care doesn’t strike a chord. Yet, we can’t cope on our own. In fact, it’s difficult to look after oneself, never mind parents too.

The decision doesn’t have to be as difficult as it seems. Yes, it will be tough, but here are four ways to make it easier.

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Image borrowed from Rhoda Baer (Photographer)

 

Compare Health With Feelings

In my mind, I can’t stand the idea of someone disliking me. It’s human nature to want everyone to love or at least like your personality. And, the thought that my parents will be mad is something which is hard to deal with emotionally. However, the best piece of advice I can give is to compare their health with their feelings. Sure, no one will be happy at moving into a home, but their well-being may warrant it. Old people who fall over and have accidents need professionals by their side. They may not see it, but at least they’ll be safe and alive.

Find A Compromise

To be fair, I don’t think that there are only two options here. A home is a popular choice because it provides aging people with the care they need. Still, I’ve found compromises that do the same without the need to make a rash decision. Have you ever heard of respite care? The term may be foreign but the concept is well-known and well-liked. It’s where caregivers drop by peoples’ homes to check up on them and run errands. I like this because it gives the primary caregiver a rest and ensures their peace of mind.

Involve Them

Parents rebel when they feel they aren’t a part of the conversation. I think we have all be guilty of doing this, especially as they age. It’s as if we know what’s best for them so we make the decisions. As parents ourselves, it’s easy to fall into the trap of thinking they are children. They aren’t and they deserve the respect of adults. With that in mind, always ask for their input before making any big decisions. I try my hardest to speak to them openly and frankly about things and listen to their responses. At least then we can have a grown-up conversation.

Choose Wisely

Sometimes, we can’t do any of the above. It isn’t that we haven’t tried; more we need to keep them safe. Assisted living is the only option whether they like it or they don’t, and it’s a difficult decision to make. The only thing that helps is to know that it wasn’t a bad one. And, picking a beautiful home with all the trimmings can ease a person’s guilt. It’s good to know they are in the best place for them even if they are unhappy.

I hope you don’t have to deal with this situation. If you do, how will you proceed?

Disclosure:  This is not a sponsored post.  There are no affiliate links.  All thoughts are my own and no others.  This post is now in the guidelines of the FTC.

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