It’s Okay to Not Be Okay

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Whenever people ask, ‘are you okay?’ you, like everyone else, probably say yes. But is this really true?

In a world where everyone is presenting their best selves on social media, it is all too easy to fall into the trap of comparing yourself on your worst days to other people on their best days. This is a problem for all kinds of reasons but what is most concerning is that instead of getting help, lots of people are simply pretending to be fine.

Here is one thing you should know: it’s okay to not be okay. We can’t all be having the best days of our lives every single day and understanding and accepting that is actually a healthy part of life.

So what should you do when you aren’t okay?

Ask for Help

Asking for help can be really hard, especially if you aren’t entirely sure what is wrong. Your friends and family are usually your first port of call in this case as they know you well and can usually help you figure things out.

Talking openly and honestly can make you feel quite vulnerable so finding someone you feel totally safe and comfortable with is key. For many people, the best person for this role is a therapist as they are trained to put you at your ease and help you work through any issues you bring up. Seeing a therapist is always a good idea if you are lonely or you are withdrawing from things that used to make you happy or even if you just feel like talking to someone impartial.

Some people do turn to substances when they aren’t really okay. Alcohol and drug use is more common than you might think and even when you feel in control, you can quickly spiral. Again, seeking help is a very good idea and drug addiction treatment centers can really benefit you, especially if you tackle the problem early on.

There’s no shame in asking for help or talking about your problems. Social media gives an inaccurate picture of life and no matter how great everyone else’s lives look, you can be sure that you aren’t the only one feeling down. We all lead complicated lives even if that fact is difficult to remember sometimes.

Take Good Care of Yourself

While seeking help should be your first port of call, you should also think about how you can take better care of yourself. Wellness might sound a bit wishy-washy at times but the reality is that no matter what you do to take a bit of time out and chill, you are going to feel better for it. Self care is often seen as an added extra but it should be part of a healthy lifestyle.

Taking care of yourself really means putting aside some time to think quietly and be honest with yourself. For some people, meditating or even napping can be a good way to achieve this as it gives you proper one-on-one time with your inner-self. Again, soul searching might sound daft but taking the time to notice how you are feeling will give you a good start when it comes to dealing with your problems. It’s significantly easier to face problems when you are willing to acknowledge their existence!

However, meditation isn’t the only thing you can do. Any relaxing activity that you enjoy is good for letting your stress ebb away and reconnecting with yourself. Taking a long bubble bath, watching a daft film, reading, going for a walk, doing crafts, staring of the window – any of these things give you time to slow down and live in the moment.

One of the great traps of the human condition is this thought: I feel this way because I am this way. Feelings are changeable. They come and go depending on all kinds of things from how much sleep you got last night to whether it is raining or not. Feelings are a part of you but they are not the whole you. You can take control.

Make Positive Changes

We are all creatures of habit and we easily fall into routines. But we often don’t realize just how damaging our habits and routines can be. One of the most important things to remember when you aren’t feeling great is that you can make changes. Maybe not in a huge way but even a small difference can alter your whole outlook for the better.

For example, if you are feeling bored and lonely a lot of the time, you can choose to go out and meet new people by joining a club or trying something new. People are surprisingly shy when it comes to meeting others but we all like it when someone else says ‘hi’. You can be that person and saying ‘hi’ isn’t a big change to make but it is quite a shift in perspective.

Returning to therapy for just a moment, you can see why so many people benefit from talking to other people. A therapist is a really good source of small but pertinent actions that can make a big impact on your life. Plus, they can help you to gradually make changes so that you are never doing too much or feeling overwhelmed by it all.

It’s okay to not be okay. You don’t have to be up all the time and, frankly, if you are, you’re probably faking it which could be just as damaging. A lot of time, we all simply need to be a bit more realistic about our expectations. Having a bad day is normal. Having a few bad days is unfortunate but normal too. But when all you are seeing is the negatives, you need to accept some help before things can get better.

The healthiest people are not those who have endless fun, perfect bodies and get constant validation from others. The healthiest people are those who see that life is a journey, it comes with a wide range of experiences, good, bad and meh. And this is what you should strive for.

Disclosure:  This is not a sponsored post.  There are no affiliate links included in this post.  All thoughts are my own and no other.  This post is now in the guidelines of the FTC.

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