How To Look After Your Family And Cope With Trauma

How To Look After Your Family And Cope With Trauma

Disclosure:  This is not a sponsored post.  There are no affiliate links in this post.  All thoughts are my own and no other.  This post is now in the guidelines of the FTC.

Healthy Coping Mechanisms

A traumatic event can send the usual rhythm of your life up in flames, with your mind is preoccupied by overwhelming sorrow, frustration and anger, it’s difficult to concentrate on the one thing that’s most important, your family. Traumatic scenarios take a different approach to handling when you have dependents you need to take care of as you must somehow muster the energy and strength to carry on and maintain a regular routine. Naturally, this is difficult to do, and by no means are you expected to provide the exact lifestyle you did prior to your trauma, but there are things you can do to adjust and adapt to your new situation to ensure you are taking care of your family while balancing the weight of an ordeal on your shoulders.

Back To Basics

When your energy is low, and your mind is distracted it’s challenging to maintain the rhythm we once did. This means you might need to reassess your priorities and figure out if there’s anything that adds further stress to your routine that you need right now on your timetable. Looking at your routine, you can forecast the events you are capable of doing on the ones that you may want to cut back on for the time being.

However, it’s imperative to create continuity and stability for children, and so if it’s possible try not to unnecessarily disturb their routine for eating times, sleeping, school time and after-school clubs. If you are struggling to meet these needs, you may want to consider the next step.

Ask For Help

 

There’s no shame in asking for or accepting help following a traumatic event in your life, in fact, it’s incredibly wise to do so. Receiving support from your parents for them to look after the children may help you get back on track. It will also help ensure your children’s lives are not disturbed too much, preventing anxiety and uncertainty. Without you being in good health mentally and physically, your family wouldn’t be able to cope without you anyway. So accepting help to give yourself time to grieve, to help maintain your families routine or to become stronger is essential in order to take care of your family properly.

Family Time

Making an effort to spend quality time with your family is still important to keep your relationships and bond with each other strong and to prioritize their wellbeing. Although some people may feel the need to withdraw during a trauma, making an effort to show your family love and affection is a selfless act and will be highly appreciated by your family during a devastating time. If you are no longer able to do the activities you once did as a family together, for instance, if you’ve suffered severe injuries from a car accident, you could ask your family to think with you what else you can do together. Even if this means you’re bed-bound, you might watch movies together and eat popcorn, or play board games. This will keep you engaged and connected with your family and is part of looking after them while you are dealing with trauma.

Healthy Coping Mechanisms

A large part of how you are able to look after your family depends on the time you have to take care of yourself to help you to cope on a daily basis. Your choice of coping mechanisms is essential to think about, as there is a variety that aren’t good for your health and mental wellbeing. For instance, alcohol and drug abuse. They may provide temporary highs; however, alcohol, in particular, is a depressant and usually exacerbates the feelings you are already experiencing. Meaning if you are angry, alcohol will tend to encourage these feelings further. Not to mention, addiction can be very hard to overcome, meaning your initial coping mechanism could make your current trauma and desire to take care of your family extremely challenging.

Here are some alternatives healthy coping mechanisms to help release good endorphins, give you a feel-good factor, or to distract you from your trauma;

  • Spending time outdoors
  • Exercising
  • Reading
  • Being creative
  • Taking up a new hobby
  • Reaching for healthy snacks
  • Drinking lots of water
  • socializing with family and friends
  • Resting and relaxing
  • Watching a comedy
  • Listening to music and singing
  • Therapy
  • Rehab

To look after your family, you need to take care of you to, to get better and become stronger. Which means refocusing your priorities, asking for help from family, friends and professionals, spending quality time with your family, and adopting healthy coping mechanisms not only is beneficial for your family but will also help you too.

Disclosure:  This is not a sponsored post.  There are no affiliate links in this post.  All thoughts are my own and no other.  This post is now in the guidelines of the FTC.

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