Beating Anxiety as a Hard-Working Mother

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Before you have a child, life can be a breeze to get through. You only have a couple of responsibilities and worries that you can easily handle throughout the day. In fact, most of your time could be spent on improving yourself, meeting new people, and taking each day one step at a time.

Once you have a child, it can feel like the world is slowly closing in on you.

I’ve experienced this myself. Before having a child, there were only a handful of concerns on my mind that could actually bring me to a halt. But as soon as I had a child, it felt like those worries continued to pile on and on until it prevented me from doing anything productive with my day. I was slogging through life one day at a day with no end in sight. My day was split between my work and my kids and there was no time for myself. I just had to wear the happy mom’s face and get things done.

It’s fine to live like that for a while. After all, I was embracing the responsibilities of having a child. I knew what I was signing up for and I was perfectly fine with it. What I wasn’t prepared for was the emotional side of having a child. Physically, I was doing fine. I was eating healthy and I still got a bit of exercise every day. Financially, I was doing great. I kept my position at work after my pregnancy and my boss was understanding whenever I had to leave early because of my children. Mentally? Now that’s a whole different story.

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Feelings of anxiety are difficult to suppress

For starters, let’s explain the difference between stress and anxiety because they are two different things. Stress is a feeling of physical or emotional tension. If you’re angry, frustrated, or nervous, then it’s called stress. For example, you might feel like you have no time to do things as a stay-at-home young mother, so you would define that as stress. On the other hand, anxiety is slightly different. It’s described as a feeling of unease such as worry or fear. When it’s mild, it can cause a bit of stress and that’s about it. However, when it’s severe, it can cause you to lock up and freeze when it comes to making decisions or trying to plan ahead. That’s because anxiety makes you consider all of the bad outcomes of something.

For example, many new mothers will ask themselves “am I doing this right?” with almost anything regarding their child. Am I changing diapers correctly? Am I doing my best to teach my kids? Should I quit my job to spend more time with the children? These are the types of questions that I would ask myself on a regular basis. The idea that I was leading my children down a dark path with no positive outcome caused a great deal of depression and stress in me. When it gets severe, it can feel like every decision you’ve made is the wrong one and that you’re not living up to your responsibilities as a mother.

These kinds of feelings are difficult to suppress because they are most likely partially true. For instance, how can you say that a decision you’ve made for your child is the right one? We can’t see into the future, so it’s a little hard to say with full confidence that a decision we made was either right or wrong. Those feelings of negativity can be difficult to overcome, especially when you’re swamped with responsibilities.

These kinds of feelings are also known as parental guilt. It’s a common part of parenting, but when you’re trying to do everything as a mother, there’s rarely anyone that you can rant to or explain your feelings to. It can make your feelings well up inside and before you know it, you’ll snap and who knows what the outcome would be.

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Dealing with the anxiety that comes from parenting

A hard-working mother is subject to a lot of stress and anxiety due to their position. Thankfully, there are a couple of ways to get over those feelings and beat them.

 

  • Making better use of your time. One of the best ways to beat anxiety as a mother is to understand how you’re using your time. For example, parents can often get caught up looking at things such as social media during their break at work or during a commute. When they see other people having fun and enjoying themselves, it can create feelings that you’re missing out which just makes things worse. Try to reduce the amount of time you spend on frivolous things such as social media and spend it on improving your skills as a mother or self-care.

 

  • Try different anxiety remedies. Every mother has their own way to deal with anxiety, but it takes a bit of trial and error to find out what works best for you. Some mothers will meditate, others will do some exercise and some might try medicinal remedies. This can include adding Penguin CBD to food and beverages or even medicine prescribed by your physician. Whatever remedies you choose, it’s always a good idea to consult a healthcare professional first to ensure it doesn’t make the problem worse.

 

  • Spend more time on yourself. Perhaps one of the most important ways to beat anxiety is to spend more time on yourself. Go outside on your day off and read a book or take a stroll with your child. Enjoy a nice relaxing bath with some soothing music after work. Practice being more mindful by meditating and focusing on your own thoughts. These might sound small and insignificant, but spending more time on yourself is a great way to overcome feelings of anxiety and stress.

 

Focusing on yourself is one of the key aspects of beating anxiety. Make sure you get plenty of rest and focus on using your time to improve yourself and look after your children. Try to cut out any unimportant tasks and learn to prioritize what’s really important in your life.

Disclosure: This is not a sponsored post. There are no affiliate links included in this post. All thoughts are my own and no others. This post is now in the guidelines of the FTC

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